Why good guys come in last, sometimes

02/06/08 - Guys, have you ever had a crush on some really hot (beautiful, gorgeous, pretty) girl and wondered how in the world could you ever have a chance of attaining something of that magnitude? Well, for starters, I know I have, and being one bold and friendly guy, I've tried to make that attempt.

That said I really don't have a problem going up to women and striking a conversation, but I do have a problem trying to get a girl to be more than just a friend.

It seems that every girl that I've had a strong interest in turns out being one of my friends - and this makes things very frustrating on my part. "Oh, you're such a good friend" and "I'm so happy to have a friend like you" have been phases that have shot down my lonely heart and made me sulk in a pit of confusion.

What am I doing wrong? I can honestly say that I don't have a mean bone in my body (unless someone is just completely obscene and obnoxious). I live by the sayings, "Treat others the way you want to be treated," and "Kill them with kindness," and trust me- going by that statement I've killed a lot of people.

After killing so many girls (with kindness), I've noticed that these very same girls are being picked up by the over-confident, over-gelled and over-cocky bad asses that society deems to be complete and utter trash.

Now, this is where I know for a fact that any males reading this can relate to the aforementioned situation and might feel the need to be baptized and convert into this newly found "macho lifestyle."

Going to school in Rhode Island, I've noticed that it's all the "tough guys" with their accents and attitudes that are captivating the masses of women into their lairs and claiming them as their own.

But why is that?

What's the appeal toward the "tough guy?" It's quite funny that guys are looking for women to bring home to mother and women don't consider that at all. I'm not saying that all "good guys" are keeping that in mind, but it's a potential component when it comes to looking for the right woman.

Now, if I was a woman at a public setting (bar, club, party) and I noticed that some slimeball was heading my way and started spitting game, I would laugh and walk away (the only reason I would do this is because I would have the mindset of a guy and the body of a woman). Or is the reason that women give those guys attention is because they desire the same attention back?

Maybe I'm just angry that tough guys are gathering up all the pretty women in the world, but I just really don't get it. What's the attraction? Why the tough guys? I mean, good guys can be tough when the time comes.

For example, say if you're with a woman at a bar and a fight breaks out next to you and your lady friend accidentally gets hit in the action, as her date, it's only right that you should show some involvement and react to the actions that have just been witnessed, thus this is a proper time to display your ultra-masculine side.

So maybe this rant about how the good guy hardly gets the girl might open the eyes to women everywhere on how there's variety in the sea of fish.

To all the good guys out there, don't change your ways because good things do come to those who wait - granted the time is overdue.